He said he wanted to have kids.
Surely, one's own fetish for the irrelevance of dichotomy forces one to not frown. And then, there is a realization. The irrelevant dichotomy between having and not arises only when one crosses the layer which even makes the two possibilities visible. One can after all frown -- assuming the shield of recursion works for layers above and beyond.
Life, after all, is so beautifully useless.